My Resolution? Talk Less, Listen More, and Stay Positive!

Posted by David Chism | Wed, Jan 2, 2019

 My Resolution? Talk Less, Listen More, and Stay Positive!

While read­ing the book Let­ters to the Church” by Fran­cis Chan over the Christ­mas hol­i­day sea­son, I was remind­ed by the author of how easy it is for peo­ple (all of us) to be crit­i­cal. Thanks to the pow­er of dig­i­tal tech­nol­o­gy, we can express our opin­ions more eas­i­ly today than ever before. Social media in par­tic­u­lar makes it a cinch to share a neg­a­tive review, expe­ri­ence, or opin­ion for just about all areas of our lives: reli­gion, pol­i­tics, fam­i­ly, and so forth. 

Fran­cis Chan obvi­ous­ly point­ed out ways Chris­tians need to real­ly be care­ful of how they express them­selves online and in person. 

This is not a book review, but it did make an impact and leave me with this take­away: be more pos­i­tive in 2019

Here is one thing I’ll be work­ing on in my own life this year: I don’t want to be as quick to give my opin­ion. I want to lis­ten more, ask good ques­tions, and, when the time is right, offer an opin­ion. This is some­thing I’ll be work­ing on in both my per­son­al and busi­ness life.

If you are a busi­ness own­er or man­ag­er, per­haps you’d ben­e­fit as well from slow­ing down and giv­ing few­er opin­ions. Instead, let your team mem­bers fig­ure things out on their own — ask­ing good ques­tions is always a bet­ter way to run a suc­cess­ful busi­ness. It is just a bit too easy to jump in, give an opin­ion, or be imme­di­ate­ly critical. 

You and I can make such an impact and dif­fer­ence in our busi­ness and on the peo­ple around us when we com­mit to stay­ing pos­i­tive when it comes to our inter­ac­tions and opin­ions. I am always pret­ty care­ful of what I say on social media, since I am in that line of work, but hav­ing a sub­tle reminder here and there nev­er hurts. 

It will take some real work for some of us (I’m point­ing at myself here). But, as James 1:19 says, “…let every per­son be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.” 

I am a detailed per­son and tend to be very order­ly and have my ducks in a row. While this may be a pos­i­tive, it does mean that I can be crit­i­cal of oth­ers who don’t line up or do things the way I think they should be done. While read­ing Chan’s book over the hol­i­day, and through­out a series of events in 2018, I began to real­ize how impor­tant it is for me to work on how I treat those around me. 

Cre­at­ing a pos­i­tive and encour­ag­ing com­pa­ny cul­ture is what I’ve always want­ed to do and have been striv­ing to do, but I think I lost sight of that in the midst of 2018’s changes, dis­trac­tions, and busy sea­sons. Now that I’ve set­tled down a bit, caught my breath, and looked back, I want to refresh my com­mit­ment to build­ing rela­tion­ships that are built upon me being an encour­ager and an enabler — not one who is quick to be critical. 

I hope you find my hon­est post help­ful as you start 2019.

About David Chism

David Chism started his business out of a passion for helping small contracting businesses grow, be more profitable and become better known to their target clients. One lifelong hobby of David is using techie gadgets. So this blog is a place where he writes about technology, marketing ideas, just for fun (humor), personal thoughts on small business and more.


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